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One thing I learned about retirement is that you can never share too much with a loved one!
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It’s never to late to learn new and wonderful things about retirement.



Last week I wrote about my experience of giving a retirement workshop in Alaska. The goal of this event was to help couples discuss how they would Make the Most of Retirement Life—Together. In additions to sharing information, I learned quite a bit about retirement from attendees’ responses to various prompts. Their ideas were so brilliant that I feel compelled to broadcast them to as many retirees as possible.

I hope you’ll tell me what you think about their insights and how they affect your thoughts on retirement.

All along I have been worrying about what I was going to do in his retirement. Now it’ strikes me that I should be thinking about what WE are going to do in his retirement and how WE will make it work.”  

Sally’s comment emphasized an important distinction on how couples think about making retirement work together. Wives often express concern about having a husband at home all the time. They worry that he may follow them around, interfere in their daily schedule or try to change household routines.

Sally’s astute observation demonstrates how to put a stop to such unnecessary worries. Discussing and planning for our priorities together helps eliminate most of those problems.

The whole point of doing it, is doing it with you.”

Jean was surprised when Jim said he would like to bike the Pacific Coast with her. Since he’s a faster rider, Jean assumed he would want to do this trip with one of his biking partners. Jim’s reply lite up the room with the warmth of the love and appreciation each had for the other. Truly, the best part of a retirement relationship is doing something you love with someone you love.

“I want to be excited about retirement.” 

Martha’s comment raised an important consideration about this life style. I have often heard fears of being bored or feeling trapped. Sadly, this concern is accepted as reality by many. Martha’s decision to be excited about what is to come sets the tone for enjoyment and happiness.

“We could all talk (as couples) about the topics Nora raises, but we don’t. We need to commit to sharing honestly with our partners.”

Naturally, I was thrilled to hear that Sandy, felt inspired by the discussion topics in this workshop. No doubt, the more we share honestly with our partners the stronger and happier our retirement relationships will be.

I could  mention more brilliant observations from this workshop, but I’m gong to save them for another day. In the meantime, I hope these statements inspire you to consider how they might affect your relationship. Do these ideas spark thoughts you would like to share with other readers? Do their comments make you think you would like to attend a workshop on Making Your Retirement Life work—Together? Will you tell us what you have learned about retirement?

Your comments below could influence others to create a stronger and happier retirement.

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