Do you feel Trapped in Retirement? Are you ready to manage the changes in retirement that may come your way?
This blog’s recent discussions of transition in retirement raise the question—are we ready to manage those changes in retirement. Before retirement transitions take us by surprise, it’s helpful to consider possible changes and how we’ll deal with them.
I recently read an article by the Retirement Coach, Deborah Williams who offered several tips on avoiding feeling trapped in retirement. Since I have spoken with a number of women who do feel trapped in retirement I’d like to elaborate on a few of her suggestions. Some wives are frustrated that their life partners want to do everything with them. Others are annoyed because their partner believes he has better ways to do everything around the house. Still, others feel burdened by his or her mate’s requests for home maintenance projects … and so on.
Not everyone experiences such dire issues, but Deborah’s questions can help all of us avoid situations that lead to being trapped in retirement. Let’s consider just a few of them
Are you trapped in retirement? What kind of changes do you want to make in this life stage, and why?
It’s one thing to feel the need for change, but it’s not likely to happen without a plan. Can you clearly identify what habit or action you want to replace with something you are experiencing right now? Equally important—do you know WHY you want that change and how you will know when it occurs. Only with a clear plan for outcomes will you be able to identify benefit when the change occurs.
How will your changes impact others, and are you willing to compromise to accomplish those changes?
Your mate and others in your life may be impacted by changes you need. The question is: Are you prepared to make the compromises that your changes may require? If you decide you want to go back to work, go to school or join a fun dance group, what will you be leaving behind?
Are you going to need support to free your time to accomplish your new goals? If so, how will that happen without making others—or yourself—feel burdened. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take on new goals, only that compromises may be required.
How will you feel when you have accomplished what you set out to do?
The answer to that question is different for everyone, but it’s crucial to your feeling of success. Be certain to establish criteria when you decide on a new venture. Being aware of an “end goal” will help you recognize the satisfaction and success you sought in the beginning. Without that, you could continue to feel trapped.
Good luck and happy discovering!
If you like this idea please share it with others—and you might also wish to check out Deborah’s website.