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Being Happy in Retirement takes commitment and effort.

When I started writing about retirement I found little information on creating a plan for how we chose to live in this life stage. True, a few best-selling, feel-good books about being happy in retirement and numerous suggestions for creating good financial plans existed. However, nine years ago, I found little information about building strong relationships in this new life stage.

I felt sad when my husband and I found ourselves struggling in this new togetherness and surprised that I could find little information about adapting to retirement. Consequently, in search of support, I started talking with other retirees and learned that most couples struggled to adjust. This helped me realize we were not alone. It also prompted me to share what I had learned about the truths of retirement.

As Boomers reached retirement age, the amount of helpful retirement information soared. Life coaches even began championing this topic. I know I continue to read all I can about retirement adjustment and share it with my readers.

What is the real truth of being happy in retirement?

For me, the truth of retirement adjustment comes in a blog I recently read. The writer, Robert Laura, said:

“The good news is that there’s not something wrong with you, there’s something wrong with how we have all been programmed to think about and prepare for retirement.  We’ve been brainwashed with this Pollyanna, Utopian type belief system where life finally comes together and flows with little energy or effort.  But nothing could be further from the truth.  A successful life in retirement isn’t one without problems but rather one where you learn to overcome them.

The message in this statement is that life doesn’t change when we retire.  There are still good things and bad things that happen. The secret is, however, that we have the experience, the knowledge and time to overcome whatever conflicts come our way. If we want things to happen, we have to make the effort. Giving up is not the answer—that simply leads to depression, despair or frustration.

How will you spend your retirement? Will you make it happy for yourself and loved ones or will you waste time brooding over situations? It’s your call—I hope you will join me in committing to making retirement the best stage of your life

You can help others to be happy in retirement by sharing your thoughts on this topic. What do you do, or have you done, to assure a happy retirement life?  How have your actions and decisions created contentment and satisfaction for yourself and those you love?

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