Budha offering helpful words of wisdom for all of us

We are responsible for our own changes and how we adapt to them.


The real meditation practice is how we live our lives from moment to moment to moment.” –

Jon Kabat-Zinn  

Mindfulness: A Helpful Practice During Times of Stress

Had I discovered the practice of Mindfulness, I might not have written the book, Survive Your Husband’s Retirement. Part of me is OK with that because that process introduced me to many wonderful people and amazing experiences. I’m happy, however, that the practice of Mindfulness found its way to my consciousness during COVID-19. 

This concept of Mindfulness just seemed to appear on my computer screen a few weeks ago. I don’t remember what I was looking for at the moment, but that sight caught my eye. Some would say the universe knew what was important for me. I just thought I had hit a wrong key. However it happened, it did make me curious. Perhaps I sensed that it could be helpful for me to develop this practice now.

I suspect most of us have concerns about the Coronavirus, and that can have a negative impact on our lives. Consequently, it seems to me that a mindfulness practice might benefit many people.  Whether retired or working from home during COVID-19, you may be looking for ways to reduce stress. Mindfulness could be an answer.

Practicing Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness helps relieve stress by keeping us focused on positive actions rather than negative thoughts. Researchers state that the active practice of mindfulness keeps our minds too occupied to slip into negative thoughts.

What is Mindfulness?

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), “mindfulness is defined as a moment-to-moment awareness of one’s experience without judgment.” Their research states that practicing mindfulness reduces stress. And, I think it’s safe to say that the less stress we have at this time, the better off we are.

There are many ways to reach a state of Mindfulness. Practicing your chosen type of mediation can help us slow down. It also helps us become more aware of who and where we are and what truly matters. Whatever practice you choose, when Mindfulness takes place, you’re likely to feel more calm and accepting of situations. Each person is different, so my goal is simply to mention the concept of mindfulness as something that may be of interest to you. As a “newbie” to this practice, I’ve learned that it helps to start focusing on something for five minutes. Then aim for 10 or 20 minutes. Don’t rush. It will come if it’s the right thing for you. Even some Mindfulness is likely to be of benefit.

Why Mindfulness?

I’m not a psychologist so I can only share what I read. You may want to refer to the article, 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Mindfulness Meditation. It presents interesting reasons for developing the practice of mindfulness such as better sleep, reducing anxiety and stress levels as well as decreasing a sense of loneliness.

This practice has helped me so I decided to share these thoughts, but only you know if it could be right for you. However, if any of these benefits seem desirable, you might want to explore methods for developing a mindfulness practice. Three sources I have discovered are:

• 9 Mindfulness Rituals to Make Your Day Better     https://zenhabits.net/ritual/

• 5 Steps to Mindfulness            https://www.mindful.org/five-steps-to-mindfulness/

• Developing an Effective Mindfulness Practice    https://blog.usejournal.com/developing-an-effective-mindfulness-practice-138c2f9c307f?gi=2f32667c35a0

If you find other sources that you absolutely love, it would be great if you would share that information below.

PS: One skill I think is enhanced when we are more mindful is the ability to compromise. If you are wondering why compromise is important in relationships, this article on compromising in relationships could be helpful. 


Wishing you good health and a stress-free day.