Seeking Harmony in Retirement
I recently had a rude awakening about the value of seeking harmony in retirement relationships. A friend of ours died recently…in perfect health…in his sleep. He was a wonderful man.
Fortunately he and his wife and family shared happy relationships. It’s extremely difficult to lose one so cherished. However, imagine how unfortunate it would be if angry words had been spoken before they retired for the evening. This offers a tremendous lesson in the adage, “don’t go to bed angry.” It also highlights reasons for seeking harmony in retirement relationships.
In addition to the tremendous loss his family is felling, our friend’s death emphasizes the importance of being kind to one another. Seeking harmony in retirement relationships is worth every possible effort.
Finding Harmony in Retirement—despite occasional spats
Like most retired couples, my husband and I have occasional disagreements, or what we like to call misunderstandings. Nevertheless our friend’s sudden death has made us much more aware of the importance of being good to one another. It has reminded us to honestly discuss issues we don’t agree on. Most of all, it reminds us to not bear a grudge after a resolution to some difficulty has been reached.
How does one achieve the goal of being good to one another? There are probably many ways to go about that. My favorite thoughts include being kind to one another and laughing together. Kindness simply makes us appreciate each other more—even when one of us commits a faux pas. Laughter makes it harder to be angry and reduces, what is sometimes inevitable, stress.
Sharing humor with others
In the next few weeks, I will be giving workshops on Seeking Humor in Retirement. I suspect that many attendees will have a great deal to add to my list of ways to find humor that leads to harmony.
I’ll share their thoughts on this blog. In the meantime, will you share your thoughts in the comments section on creating humor and harmony with your life partner? We all look forward to your insights.
If you’re having trouble finding your own brand of humor, you might lookup Paul McGee at the Laughter Remedy. He looks a bit like the Wizard of Oz, but his scientific contributions in humor research are widely respected. He gives a workshop on The 7 Humor Habits and has written a book on the topic as well.
Even if you don’t want to attend a workshop or buy the book, you might enjoy reading what he has to say on his website.
Posting your thoughts about humor on social media is a great way to lighten the spirits of others as well as your own. Please do!