While working on the Second Edition of Survive Your Husband’s Retirement, I realized (once again) that we truly do make our own happiness. Continuing conversations with couples and individual women with retired husbands made it clearer than ever to me that those who stay happily married in retirement are those who have made efforts to compromise, to share their goals with one another and, most especially, to seek to understand their partner’s feeling about this life stage.
Many generous retirees shared their secrets to stay happily married and enabled me to create a section of valuable tips in the Second Edition that can benefit all of us.
This blog seems like another spot to share their ideas, and I plan to do that at least twice a month. I hope you will join in the conversation by sharing your thoughts on a particular tip or add a tip that might have been missed in the book. We all learn from one another, so your thoughts on finding the joy that allows you to stay happily married is sure to help someone else reading this post.
My vote for, perhaps, the most important and effective tip I heard throughout my conversations with happy retirees is PRACTICE GRATITUDE.
Why is gratitude important? Practicing gratitude we can change our whole attitude about our circumstances and enable us to experience life in a more positive way–even when life seems most upsetting.
If you’re having a “bad” day, one thought of gratitude can help change that. I know when I wake up much too early on a dark or cold morning, my first thought could be, “Why do I wake up so darn early,” but the thought, “I’m glad I’m alive,” turns my annoyance into joy…and provides me with the energy to get up and get going.
There are so many ways to practice gratitude. I imagine you know plenty of them. However, if you are looking for suggestions for making gratitude a regular part of your life, you might consider going to happify.com. Yes, it’s a corny name, but the site has compelling ideas you might want to incorporate in your life.
The second edition of Survive will be available on Amazon and other sites early next week. I hope you’ll take a look at it and let me know what you think.
What’s my gratitude thought today? You guessed it, I am grateful that the book is finally ready for publication and to all those who helped make it possible.
What’s your gratitude thought today? Please share it below—or on Facebook, with a friend and especially, your life mate!