Friends in Retirement are Important
friend sent me this article with no indication of where it came from. However, I think it’s such a powerful piece that I want to share it with my readers. I hope the author will forgive me and, identify him or herself as I would love to give credit for this wise advice.
The Value of Friends in Retiremet
A newly wed young man was sitting on the porch on a humid day, sipping ice tea with his father. As they talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities, and obligations, the father cast a clear, sober look on his son.
“Never forget your friends,” he advised, “They will become more important as you get older. Regardless of how much you love your family, you will always need friends. Remember to go out with them occasionally (if possible), but keep in contact with them somehow.”
“What strange advice!” thought the young man, “I just entered the married world. Surely my wife and the family will be everything I need to make sense of my life.”
Yet, he obeyed his father; kept in touch with his friends and annually increased their number. Over the years, he became aware that his father knew what he was talking about.
Inasmuch as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a person, friends are the bulwarks of our life. After 70+ years of life, here is what he, you and I will have learned:
Life goes on.
Children grow up. They cease to be children and become independent. It breaks their hearts, but the children are separated from the parents because they begin their own families.
Jobs/careers come and go.
Illusions, desires, attraction, sex weakens.
People can’t do what they did physically when they were young.
Parents die, but you move on.
Colleagues forget the favors you did.
The race to achieve slows.
True friends are always there, however, no matter how many miles away they are. A friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, waiting for you with open arms or in some way blessing your life.
When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the possible joys or sorrows we might face. We did not know how much we would need from each other. Love your parents, love your spouse. Take care of your family, but keep a group of good friends. Stay in touch with them, but do not impose your criteria. You’ll be glad you did.
Send this to your friends in retirement (even those you seldom see) who help make sense of your life.
I just did.