That’s probably good––especially if you make that energy benefit you and your spouse. A while ago the columnist, Robert Frank, wrote an article in the financial section of the New York Times stating that “Worry is good for us because it drives us to plan for the future.” While not one to waste energy worrying, reading the article, made me think that relationship planning is as important to a retirement marriage as financial planning.
Even if your spouse is your best buddy, the 24/7 shock of being together can be overwhelming. Oddly, most of us have not thought about that wrinkle. Before retirement many dwell on the joy of having time to do whatever you want––maybe even dreaming about how nice it will be to spend more time with your mate.
Be aware, however––24/7 changes many marriage relationships.
If you both agree how you want to spend that time together and make your expectations clear, the change can be delightful. If you don’t––the change can be shocking.
Maybe you or your mate won’t be the first Boomer to retire, but start talking now about your honest expectations for the third stage of marriage and how your relationship could change. The prior planning will go a long way in making a smoother adjustment, and you’ll both be happier––and richer––for it.