Confession: This is a repeated article. However, it’s for all newly retired couples since good communication in retirement is a crucial skill for ALL couples. If you have been reading this blog for a while, perhaps it will spark new thoughts.
What is Good Communication in Retirement?
The other day a friend laughingly told me that her recently retired husband tried to tell her how to tie her shoes.
I can’t decide which is harder to believe––the fact that he actually tried to tell her that or that she can recount the event laughingly. She probably can laugh about it because she’s a really good sport. Still, it could also have been because she called him on it immediately.
“Wait,” she said. “You aren’t really going to tell me how to tie my shoes––are you?”
Caught in the act, he had to admit that had been his intent, and that she probably already knew how to tie them. Such quick interaction saved the day and they were able to go off on their planned bike ride free of hidden aggravation. However, that may not have happened if they didn’t typically speak openly about their feelings.
Is this good communication?
I recently heard from a high school classmate in response to my web site. He told me, “His retirement went fine as soon as he learned to duct tape his mouth.”
I laughed at the thought for he is a fine gentleman with a great sense of humor. I could hardly imagine he would ever say anything wrong. Apparently, his wife didn’t agree, but it seems they found at least one solution.
Thrust together 24/7, it seems that some retired husbands develop a tendency to critique many of their wives’ actions. If your husband hasn’t yet realized that, indeed you have been doing the daily tasks around the house successfully for quite a few years, there may be a new remedy––or at least a weapon.
Imagine the threat of duct tape on a bearded face. OUCH! That alone should prompt the struggling retiree to look inward for other things to do instead of trying to change all previously successful household routines.
Did you know Duct Tape comes in many colors? You could even make a fashion statement.
Looking for some tips for creating good communication? You might consider checking out this list. or this article, but the most important thing you can do is make a commitment to respect and enjoy one another. You might also enjoy the article on Tips for Creating a Happy Retirement Relationship.
Happy Retirement—it’s yours to make it terrific!